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Pregnancy clothes

March 13, 2010 by suburbanmummyuk

Gone are the days of boiler suits and large floral dresses while up the duff. Now you can buy some really nice stuff, I see pregnant women on the street with nice clothes.

Where are they going?

When I had Eliza I was living in Australia so everything was very light and white and all that, I was a lot thinner too.

With Jerry I bought stuff on the cheap and you could tell, it barely lasted a month, benefits to me where I had a new wardrobe often :D

But really I’d like to buy something a little more well made, and elegant and stylish, but where to find such threads?

Ideas?

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Mothers day, why I don't care

March 13, 2010 by suburbanmummyuk

I expect  nothing from my children (obviously) as they are so young but even as they grow and get older I expect nothing from them.

I had a very good childhood and then from the age of 13 my world got increasingly awful. My adoptive mother was a demanding woman she expected the world to come to standstill on mothers day and expect us all to come bearing gifts and despite always saying it doesn’t matter, I want nothing it mattered a HELL of a lot to her and if you didn’t get something that cost your life savings she’d give this weak smile and hugyou with disappointment in her eyes. While you felt incredibly bad that you hadn’t started saving earlier. She expected tea in bed, well she did anyway every day of the week, even when I was leaving for work at 6.30am I had to bring her tea, but Mothers day was different, I couldn’t cook and we couldn’t afford to eat out anywhere so we were saved in that respect and she got that. So often we’d go to a friends house and hang out there. But she’d still expect to be waited on hand and foot. Like a Queen. Then at the end of the day she’d behave like I’d done nothing and that my siblings didn’t care and she’d cry and well say a lot of hurtful things to me.

My memories of  one mothers day is all emotional blackmail with some extras thrown in for actually working a 12 hour shift that day. I struggle to forget memories on poignet days such as these.

I know one shouldn’t let the past affect them and that these things that happened, happened a very long time ago but I can’t forget. I can forgive, she is a very sad, damaged woman, but I just can’t forget and I can’t ever place expectation upon my children to give on Mothers day ever. if they choose to then that’s great and I’ll of course appreciate it. But mostly I just hope that they are always nice and loving towards me. Just as I am to them your really can’t want or expect anything more in life.

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Mothers day, why I don’t care

March 13, 2010 by suburbanmummyuk

I expect  nothing from my children (obviously) as they are so young but even as they grow and get older I expect nothing from them.

I had a very good childhood and then from the age of 13 my world got increasingly awful. My adoptive mother was a demanding woman she expected the world to come to standstill on mothers day and expect us all to come bearing gifts and despite always saying it doesn’t matter, I want nothing it mattered a HELL of a lot to her and if you didn’t get something that cost your life savings she’d give this weak smile and hugyou with disappointment in her eyes. While you felt incredibly bad that you hadn’t started saving earlier. She expected tea in bed, well she did anyway every day of the week, even when I was leaving for work at 6.30am I had to bring her tea, but Mothers day was different, I couldn’t cook and we couldn’t afford to eat out anywhere so we were saved in that respect and she got that. So often we’d go to a friends house and hang out there. But she’d still expect to be waited on hand and foot. Like a Queen. Then at the end of the day she’d behave like I’d done nothing and that my siblings didn’t care and she’d cry and well say a lot of hurtful things to me.

My memories of  one mothers day is all emotional blackmail with some extras thrown in for actually working a 12 hour shift that day. I struggle to forget memories on poignet days such as these.

I know one shouldn’t let the past affect them and that these things that happened, happened a very long time ago but I can’t forget. I can forgive, she is a very sad, damaged woman, but I just can’t forget and I can’t ever place expectation upon my children to give on Mothers day ever. if they choose to then that’s great and I’ll of course appreciate it. But mostly I just hope that they are always nice and loving towards me. Just as I am to them your really can’t want or expect anything more in life.

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Oh yes Breast V Bottle

March 12, 2010 by suburbanmummyuk

Today I checked the daily mail as I normally do, always like to keep up with the celebrity rag side of it and of course the very informative, well written current affair aticles today I see this . And rolled my eyes.

I am what you could call “one of those women” I breastfed my daughter for 2 years and 4 months she stopped ,mutually she had had enough and I had definitely had enough. During my pregnancy, I had people telling me, she didn’t need it, stop it, she’s to old, it’s just wrong I had a terrible time with breastfeeding aversion and despised feeding her yet I did it as I felt I couldn’t deny her right and that one day it would be a vague memory and it is, I am currently still breastfeeding my 21 month old and I am pregnant again and luckily nothings changed.  Everyone is entitled to their opinion I respect that and they should respect my choices and my child’s. BUT I NEVER rammed it down peoples throats and acted like a extended breastfeeding nazi as we are sometimes called.

This breast v bottle debate has been going on long enough. I was bottle fed as I was adopted despite issues in my life I attribute them to my childhood, not how I was fed in my first few months. At least I wasn’t starved.

I like breastfeeding. Why? I am lazy to be blunt, I can’t be bothered making, sterilising bottles during the day and getting up in the night with my child to feed them, I’d much rather get my boob out and let the baby feed and go back to sleep with them next to me in bed. Sometimes I put them back in their bed more often than not I don’t as that might require me to actually move and get up.But it’s what works for me and my family so there’s no issue with it. It has nothing to do with you or anyone else how I choose to feed my child. And I have no plans to tell you how to feed yours. Personally however I don’t think I could keep going after the age of 3 but that is just me.

At what point will women just take a look at one another and say “you’re doing a great job” some people have issues with breastfeeding they could of been sexually abused as a child, they could of just simply not wanted to breastfeed. Doesn’t make them wrong or heartless or uncaring, and people such as myself who choose to breastfeed past the “norm” are doing anything wrong, selfish or weird either we’re doing what suits us as a family.

So do you think we could do that?

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My what a big nose you have

March 11, 2010 by suburbanmummyuk

My daughter the one with no cares in the world, the life of a nearly four year old.

Last week while sat on a peak hour train, a man got on and removed his gloves using his teeth his other hand was holding a cup of coffee and a pastry and tucked under the same arm a newspaper. Eliza pipes up loudly so the carriage could hear “why is that man eating his gloves” I look around the carriage, not really sure who she is talking about but see the guy who says to her “I didn’t get time to eat my breakfast, so I am eating my gloves” which is  met with “that’s silly” she then continues to look out the window passing comment on everything she sees. Then the gentleman blew his nose, now it was pretty funny, it was VERY loud. Eliza bursts out laughing and says “that was a funny noise that man made” and then Her brother pipes up “to funny” and then they both pretend to blow their noses making enormous noise. The whole carriage errupts into laughter except me and the man, I am trying to leave the train but it’s to packed so I am trapped with my kids.

Yesterday she saw someone with a rather large nose

The man was talking to her he was down low and not only did she tap it twice, she then said “WOW YOUR NOSE IS REALLY, REALLY BIG”

I pretended I heard nothing as I am a shining example of how one should behave in these situations. and Chatted to Jerry. :/

Afterwards I said “darling we really shouldn’t tell people they have big noses”

“why? “He DID have a big nose”

“true, but he knows (nose) that and he doesn’t need us to tell him

“why don’t people like hearing that they have a big nose when they have a big nose”

“who nose darling, but really people might get upset”

“Oh, but why, he did have a big nose”

“yes but not everyone is happy with their noses, so it’s best not to talk about the way people look”

“oh OK”

That was the 3rd time in as many weeks she has mentioned peoples features, activities etc, two weeks ago she told a guy in the mall how he was REALLY, REALLY old, yes he was but he had the ears of an owl and heard her and came back over to have a chat about “old” people.

good times

I hate the fact I’m having to teach her that people aren’t happy with their looks, it’s a little piece of that innocence on it’s way out

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