I first had the idea for this post almost 3 years ago, when I gave birth to my second daughter, but it’s only now that I decided to write it down. Why did it take me so long? I don’t know either, but lately, I’ve noticed signs that people really don’t have a clue what they need to know before visiting someone they love in a hospital, so I thought my little guide might come in handy.
Make sure you are healthy
If you feel that you’re coming down with a cold, or you experience symptoms that can be contagious, it is better if you send a card or call, then go to the hospital and expose your loved one and other patients to your germs. If you had a cold before and now you’re planning on going to the hospital, make sure you wash your hands properly and sanitize them very well before you get into contact with your loved one. Germs spread incredibly fast and you can take them even from the remote control and that’s why a strict hygiene is very important.
Ask for permission before you decide to visit
You probably think that if it’s a family member, you don’t need to ask for permission, but you’re wrong. While all patients like to receive visits from their loved ones and have a chat, sometimes they really don’t feel up to it. I remember the day that I gave birth. Everyone wanted to come to visit me and see the baby, but I was so exhausted and all that I wanted was to get some rest. So, give your loved one a call, ask if it’s ok to visit and if not, reschedule the visit for another day.
Don’t stay too much
Another problem that visitors often don’t take into consideration is the duration of the visiting time. It is wonderful to chat with your loved one, but it’s also bad tiring them with a long visit. It is also important to leave the room if the doctor or nurse comes into the room to discuss treatment or private medical information. When you visit and have the feeling your loved one did not get the proper treatment or has been the victim of medical negligence, gather all the necessary information and make sure you file a claim. Don’t discuss it with the doctor with the patient present. It might lead to a big discussion or even worse and this is not good for the recovery (and stress level) of your loved one.
Always put your phone on silent mode or even close it, before you enter the hospital. Even if your loved one is alone in the room, it’s polite to have your phone closed and not be distracted by it in case someone calls you. It is also nice to bring a lovely bunch of flowers, or a fruit basket. If your loved one has to spend more than two days in the hospital, it’s always nice to bring in some books or magazines to help the time pass faster.
Now, as I mentioned before, I am not an expert and I don’t try to teach you how to behave, but I strongly believe that people don’t bother too much when it comes to this particular subject and that’s why I hope that you like my little guide and consider it useful!